When Men Stop Wet Dream?

JAKARTA - Men can indeed continue to produce sperm until old age. But not with wet dreams erotic dreams under certain circumstances this can be stopped. When will men stop a wet dream?

In theory, wet dreams or erotic dreams that end with ejaculation experienced by men as a marker of the arrival of puberty. Wet dream signifies that the function of male reproductive system to produce sperm cells has been running.

Each period, sperm maturation and would have expelled naturally through wet dreams. Sperm can also be out before the time when men engage in sexual activities that end in orgasm for example, masturbation and intercourse (coitus).

Therefore, the frequency of wet dream would be reduced significantly if a man become sexually active. The more often men intercourse or masturbation, wet dreams will happen even more rarely can be stopped altogether if the sperm is always removed by force.

Dr David Delvin, reproductive health experts in Britain say most of the men most often experience a wet dream in their teens to 30s. The more parents will increasingly rare experience, although some men can routinely wet dreams until the age of the 70s years.

Because sperm production is never limited by age, basically a healthy male can have wet dreams at any age to pick her death. It's just that at a certain age, men will marry and become more sexually active so that by itself will decrease the frequency of wet dreams.

Sexual activity is not only to increase in married men, even if mostly bachelor men masturbate so rarely or never wet dream. In fact, according to research only 13 percent of men who ejaculated first through a wet dream, the rest are familiar masturbate before getting wet dream.

Some men troubled by wet dreams

Although the form of erotic dreams, the fact that not all men really enjoy the experience of wet dreams. At least, some men will complain when you wake up and find patches of sperm everywhere, including pants, and mattress.

"Nothing can be done to stop a wet dream except to increase sexual activity. If spotting sperm disturbing, use a pair of shorts and go get a tissue or small towel on the bed," says Dr Delvin as quoted from Netdoctor, Tuesday (01/11/2011 .)

Another reason that makes him feel uncomfortable when having a wet dream is the dream afraid of things that are considered taboo. For example, men who live in certain norms to be afraid of pressure wet dream because it was always dreaming of sex with same sex or with their own relatives (incest).

For this type of disturbance like this, Dr Delvin recommend consulted with a psychiatrist. Various therapies including hypnosis can be done to uncover the psychological issues behind the dream and fantasy that happens to control the subconscious. 

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When Young Men First Wet Dream

JAKARTA - wet dreams or in medical language is called a nocturnal emission natural events experienced by men. How are teenagers who first had a wet dream?
Entering the age of 10-12 years, boys going through puberty process and even some children have experienced at a younger age. During this stage, men begin to produce sperm and got the ability to ejaculate.
Well, the age-old teenage boys like this usually will get to experience his first wet dream. Due to wet his bed, usually the boy would wake up at night or early morning.

When the boy was awake most of the confused and worried about wet dreams. As reported by sexinfo, Thursday (23/09/2010) this confusion is reasonable because most parents never tell what is an orgasm, wet dream or ejaculation.

Confused boy who would have thought if there was something about him or was afraid she wet the bed in her sleep. Most of these teenagers do not want to explain to his parents about this first wet dream. Moreover, wet spots on the mattress dry quickly while leaving a yellowish stain.

Another aspect that makes teens confused when you first get a wet dream is because it had never experienced an orgasm, and such a strange feeling but at the same time is also fun.

Wet dreams occur because of stimulation of the genitals due to friction from the mattress or bedding, erotic dream, a full bladder or memories of the activity or sexual thoughts.

This wet dream occurs when a person experiences a deep sleep or REM sleep (rapid eye movement or rapid eye movement), the stage of sleep where the dreams. Sleep in it then makes the rate of respiration and brain activity increases, as well as the muscles become more relaxed, which is characterized by rapid eyeball movements.

At the time of a deep sleep that men usually have an erection around 3-5 times. Due to genital stimulation or erotic dreams possible occurrence of ejaculation or orgasm during sleep which was eventually known as wet dreams.

From experience this is the next wet dream teens appear desire to masturbate to feel again the sexual passions. Because you want to masturbate teens would rather be locked in a room or bathroom.

Not infrequently parents who caught their children will be able to masturbate shock. But experts say if parents had caught her daughter masturbating should not panic or immediately judge.

Remain calm because masturbation is a normal thing done to explore the source of male sexuality. Masturbation is an important part of men in developing sexual maturity

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Male Sexual Fears

JAKARTA - The man known as being a brave and rarely have a sense of fear like a woman. But there are some things to be scared of men, particularly those related to sex. Anything?

Psychologists and sexologists of the Czech Republic has conducted a joint study to find out what the fear experienced by men in bed.

More than 1,000 men aged 20 to 45 years participated in the survey. To evaluate the results, experts classify male sexual fear into 6 categories, as reported by Geniusbeauty, Thursday (02/03/2011), namely:

1. Fear of pregnant couples
Most men are afraid of their partner pregnant outside the plan and 83 percent of participants admitted that.

2. Fear with a partner who was a virgin
Men who frequently had sexual intercourse on the other hand have fear when I have sex with a woman who is still virgin or virgin, 70 percent of participants admitted it.

3. Fear of seeing blood during intercourse
53 percent of participants were afraid of hurting their partner and fear at the sight of blood that comes out during sexual intercours

4. Fear as compared with former partner
64 percent of the participants feared that the expertise and experience during intercourse compared with the former partner.

5. Fear can not satisfy her partner
Only 45 percent of participants who are not afraid not to satisfy their partners in bed. This means that there are about 55 percent of men are not afraid to satisfy her partner in bed.

6. Afraid to experiment in bed
There are about 36 percent of participants who are afraid to experiment when having sex with the couple in bed.

The results of this survey have been published in the journal Health.

Source : detikHealth

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Love not enough to keep couples together

Age, previous relationships also are factors in whether marriage lasts . Living happily ever after needn't only be for fairy tales. Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it's a lot more than just being in love.

 

A couple's age, previous relationships and even whether they smoke or not are factors that influence whether their marriage is going to last, according to a study by researchers from the Australian National University.

The study, entitled "What's Love Got to Do With It," tracked nearly 2,500 couples — married or living together — from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or separated.

It found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.

Children also influence the longevity of a marriage or relationship, with one-fifth of couples who have kids before marriage — either from a previous relationship or in the same relationship — having separated compared to just nine percent of couples without children born before marriage.

Women who want children much more than their partners are also more likely to get a divorce.

A couple's parents also have a role to play in their own relationship, with the study showing some 16 percent of men and women whose parents ever separated or divorced experienced marital separation themselves compared to 10 percent for those whose parents did not separate.

Also, partners who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to separate than spouses who are both in their first marriage.

Not surprisingly, money also plays a role, with up to 16 percent of respondents who indicated they were poor or where the husband — not the wife — was unemployed saying they had separated, compared with only nine percent of couples with healthy finances.

And couples where one partner, and not the other, smokes are also more likely to have a relationship that ends in failure.

Factors found to not significantly affect separation risk included the number and age of children born to a married couple, the wife's employment status and the number of years the couple had been employed.

The study was jointly written by Dr Rebecca Kippen and Professor Bruce Chapman from The Australian National University, and Dr Peng Yu from the Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs. ( Reuters.com )

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Why are girls reaching puberty younger ?

Why are girls reaching puberty younger?. The fact that girls are reaching puberty younger is a physiological phenomenon, with important emotional implications, says Cassandra Jardine.

Girls in Britain, and throughout the developed world, have been been reaching puberty younger and younger Photo: ALAMY

When I was 12, my pottery teacher invited me to a party. For a year or more – nothing to do with school – I had been learning to throw pots at his studio and I was flattered to be treated as a grown-up. Rather to my annoyance, my elder sister decided to chaperone me – rightly so, for the party turned out to be an orgy. Swiftly backing me out through the door, she asked the host why on earth he had invited someone so young. “I thought she was 18,” he replied.

It was an understandable mistake. In the late Sixties, not many girls reached their full height before they left primary school, as I did, or had other misleadingly adult paraphernalia. Many more of them were like my tiny Japanese best friend who still shopped for children’s shoes and looked a decade younger than me.

Nowadays, she would be the exception and I would no longer enjoy, even briefly, the compensation of being useful (solely because of my height) to the netball team. For girls in Britain, and throughout the developed world, have been reaching puberty at a younger and younger age.

The latest results among a group of 1,000 Danish children, in research conducted by Professor Anders Juul of Copenhagen University, a paediatric endocrinologist, showed that between 1991 and 2006 the average age of breast development – the first sign of impending puberty in girls – has come down from 10.88 to 9.86 years. For every worried 14-year-old who is still padding out her bra with socks, there is now an eight-year-old who is being taken, red-faced, to the lingerie department fitting room.

These children may have been tottering around like Suri Cruise in high heels from the age of three. They could be watching unsuitable programmes on television. But becoming apparently physically mature at an early age is still confusing, both for children and their parents.

“Young children should be concentrating on friendship and education,” says educational psychologist Madelene Portwood of Durham University. “This adds to the pressure on them to behave like adults.”

Early puberty is a physiological phenomenon, with important emotional implications for all those girls who are wandering around in adults’ bodies. These girls are towering over boys of their own age because, for girls, the growth spurt and development of breasts come first; periods come later. With boys, it is the other way round: their genitalia and sweaty armpits develop before their height shoots up. The last stage of the maturing process, when they are finally able to signal their manliness, comes when their voices break.

All these markers have been occurring steadily earlier for both boys and girls, but recent changes have been dramatic. In the 18th century, when Bach was directing the Leipzig choir, the average age at which a boy’s voice broke was 18. Choirmasters now have trouble finding trebles over the age of 13 or 14.

Parents of girls in Victorian times found it easier to prevent them becoming mothers at the age of 12, because they were hitting puberty at 15 – just before they were deemed ready to marry and start families. Girls are now having their first periods aged 13.1 years.

Over the past 15 years, girls have started having periods three months earlier; in the same time span boys’ development has dropped by a similar amount to 11.66 years. Happily, the earlier age of puberty is not, in itself, a reason to panic, says Professor David Bainbridge, a Cambridge University zoologist and author of Teenagers: A Natural History. “It is the result of a better diet. Puberty is triggered by GnRH (gonadotrophin-releasing hormone). This affects the pituitary gland, which releases neurotransmitters acting directly on the ovaries or testicles.

“In that respect we are like pigs, whose puberty can be controlled by how fat we make them, although not all animals operate in this way. With cows, it is being among other adults that triggers puberty. For ewes, it is the presence of a ram. In deer, puberty never occurs until they have survived two winters.”

It seems weight is our trigger, although genes play a part, too. Better nourished, taller and heavier, there seems to be a tipping point at which the hormonal changes begin. It may even be that weight in babyhood is the key to earlier puberty.

Encouragingly, there seems to be an age below which maturity does not descend. In the Netherlands – Europe’s tallest nation – the age of first periods in girls has reached a plateau at around 13 years old. That is likely to happen here, too.

The more worrying decrease in age is related specifically to the development of breasts in girls, which can now occur long before puberty. This could be linked to the increase in genital disorders in boys.

“Six per cent of baby boys have undescended testicles, one per cent have deformed penises,” says Professor Richard Sharpe of the Medical Research Council’s Human Reproductive Sciences Unit in Edinburgh. “One in six men now has a low sperm count, and testicular cancer is doubling every 20 years. I’m more convinced that these problems, and early breast development, have their origins early in life. The problem is assigning a cause.”

Various potential villains are being investigated. The pollution of drinking water by oestrogens derived from the contraceptive pill and HRT has been known for 20 years to cause hermaphroditism in fish. But, Sharpe points out, water is carbon-filtered before it returns to the tap, and very little oestrogen remains. Naturally occurring plant (phyto-) oestrogens could also be responsible, among them tea-tree oil used in anti-nit treatments. The finger has also been pointed at parabens – preservatives used in shampoos and sun tan lotions. So, preventing children from itching and burning could be causing other problems.

Bisphenol A, a component used in the lining of tin cans, children’s feeding bottles and plastic bottles, is another possible culprit. (The National Childbirth Trust offers advice: avoiding bottles with a number 7 in the triangle on the bottom is a start). Sharpe, however, is more concerned about phthalates, chemicals used to make plastic soft, durable and transparent.

Whatever is causing premature breast development and other anatomical anomalies – and Sharpe does not want to pre-empt studies due to be published later this year – more and more children are suffering the embarrassment that comes with looking like adults while they are still at primary school. Parents can try to delay the onset of puberty by helping children stay slim, but there will always be some who develop young. They need sensitive handling both at home, and at school.

While physical changes can be premature, the brain seems stuck on an immutable development timetable. “The distinctive brain changes of adolescence are not driven by hormones, they are an independent process,” says Prof Bainbridge. “The quest for autonomy, more complex thought process and the ability to think about other people: these start aged 12-14, as they always did. Whereas these used to occur before puberty, now they come afterwards.”

Children in adult bodies find it confusing, as I did. And the pressures now to act adult are greater. “My approach to working with children has changed,” says Portwood, “because not only are they physically sexualised earlier, emotionally they are more vulnerable than they were 20 years ago. When they used to stick with the same group of friends from nursery to secondary school, they had more support. Now they move more, and the extended family is not often around, we are seeing an increasing incidence of mental health issues, including anorexia and teen suicide.”

Most primary schools now have sanitary bins in girls’ lavatories. But that is not enough. They also need school counsellors, says Portwood, to help children who are confused by looking older than they are. Parents, too, should be careful not to treat them as teenagers. “They need to look at their emotional, not their physical, development. Children of 10, 11 and 12 may look grown-up, but they shouldn’t be treated as young adults or allowed to wear adult clothes.” ( telegraph.co.uk)

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Healthy Sperm : Improving Your Fertility

Healthy sperm: Improving your fertility. Healthy sperm: What you can do that may increase your fertility. Do your sperm pass muster? Despite several months of effort, you and your partner haven't yet conceived. You're not ready to seek a fertility evaluation, but you might be wondering whether you're doing all you can to make sure you have healthy sperm. 

Male fertility depends on sperm quality and quantity, which can be affected by a variety of things. While you may not be able to control all the factors that could improve your fertility, there are steps you can take to maximize your fertility and make sure your sperm are top performers.

What factors are linked to having healthy sperm?

To achieve its goal, sperm must have three things going for it:

• Quantity. You're most likely to be fertile if you have more than 20 million sperm per milliliter of semen. However, researchers are finding that having healthy sperm (the quality) may be just as important as the total amount of sperm you produce. Of the millions of sperm in the ejaculated semen, only about 200 actually reach the egg in a woman's fallopian tube. But, just one is needed to fertilize the egg.
• Quality. It's not enough just to have enough. Sperm shape and structure (morphology) are equally important. You are most likely to be fertile if more than one-third of your sperm are of normal shape and structure. A normal sperm has an oval head and a long tail that propel it forward. Sperm with large, small, tapered or crooked heads or kinky, curled or double tails are less likely to fertilize an egg.
• Motility. To reach the target, your sperm have to move. Riding the semen wave will only take the sperm so far. To reach the egg, sperm have to move on their own — wriggling and swimming the last few inches to reach and penetrate the egg. Sperm movement (motility) is an important characteristic of healthy sperm. You're most likely to be fertile if at least half of your sperm are moving.

What can you do to produce high-quality sperm?

It takes only one sperm cell to fertilize an egg. With millions of sperm vying for the chance, you'd think each act of intercourse between you and your partner would have excellent odds of resulting in pregnancy. In fact, it may take many attempts before you succeed, even if you're both healthy and your timing is right — that is, you have sex in the days leading up to ovulation when the egg is released from the ovary.

Here's what you can do to increase your chance of contributing enough hardy, energetic sperm to get the job done.

• Take a multivitamin. A daily multivitamin can help provide selenium, zinc and folic acid — trace nutrients that are important for optimal sperm production and function.
• Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. These foods are rich in antioxidants, which may help improve sperm health.
• Reduce stress. Stress might interfere with certain hormones needed to produce sperm. Stress can also decrease sexual function.
• Get regular exercise. Physical activity is good for reproductive health as well as your overall health. But don't overdo it. Men who exercise to exhaustion show a temporary change in hormone levels and a drop in sperm quality.
• Watch your weight. Too much or too little body fat may disrupt production of reproductive hormones, which can reduce your sperm count and increase your percentage of abnormal sperm. You're most likely to produce lots of high-quality sperm if you maintain a healthy weight.

Caution: Hazardous to sperm

Even under the best circumstances, only 50 to 70 percent of a man's sperm are healthy enough to fertilize an egg. Sperm can be especially vulnerable to environmental factors, such as exposure to excessive heat or toxic chemicals. To protect your fertility:

• Watch out for toxins. Experts think certain workplace and household substances might have an effect on sperm quantity and quality. These include heavy metals used in industrial workplaces, pesticides and chemicals in solvents. Use protective clothing, proper ventilation and face masks to reduce the risk of absorbing such toxins.
• Quit using tobacco. The sperm of men who smoke may be misshapen and may move more slowly than those of nonsmokers. Smoking can also damage your sperm's DNA. Experts suspect such damage could even affect a baby's growth and development and increase a child's chance of having certain health problems, including cancer. And chewing tobacco isn't safe either — it also may cause low sperm counts and damage. As if that weren't enough, tobacco use can increase erectile dysfunction. Research shows men who both smoke and drink alcohol have lower sperm counts and motility than do men with either habit alone.
• Limit alcohol. Heavy drinking may reduce the quality and quantity of sperm. Limit alcohol to no more than one or two drinks a day. The combination of tobacco and alcohol is particularly harmful.
• Steer clear of illicit drugs. Marijuana can decrease sperm density and motility and increase the number of abnormal sperm. Cocaine and opiates can contribute to erectile dysfunction, and amphetamines can decrease sex drive.
• Skip the tub. To maximize the quality and quantity of your sperm, avoid hot tubs and baths. Spending more than 30 minutes in water 102 F (40 C) or above may lower your sperm count. Saunas and steam rooms may have a similar effect.
• Avoid hormone havoc. Anabolic steroids, usually taken illegally, can shrink the testicles and drastically reduce fertility. Anti-androgens used to treat prostate enlargement and cancer interfere with sperm production. Testosterone supplements also decrease fertility.
• Stay cool. Increased scrotal temperature can hurt sperm production. Experts know that hot work environments, tight underpants, prolonged sitting and use of laptop computers can all increase scrotal temperature. They are still studying how these activities affect fertility.
• Avoid lubricants during sex. Personal lubricants, lotions and even saliva can interfere with sperm motility. However, vegetable-oil-based lubricants are okay.

Medications and fertility

Many medications can reduce your fertility. Medications that may affect fertility include:

• Medications to control a chronic condition such as high blood pressure, inflammatory bowel disease or gout, or to suppress your immune reaction to a transplanted organ. Ask your doctor how your treatment may affect sperm development.
• Chemotherapy drugs. These medications can cause permanent infertility. So can radiation treatment for cancer. If you'll be undergoing cancer treatment, talk with your doctor about saving and freezing your sperm (semen cryopreservation) before treatment.

Separating fact from fiction

A number of myths have made the rounds in recent years, including groundless rumors that menthol cigarettes and certain soft drinks can make men sterile. Here are some that turn out to be true:

• Fact: Bicycling can sabotage the system. Sitting on a bicycle saddle for more than 30 minutes at a time — especially if you also wear tight bicycle shorts — may raise your scrotal temperature and affect sperm production. In addition, prolonged cycling can cause genital numbness — a sign of damage to delicate nerves and arteries. Choose a seat that's not too hard or narrow, and make sure it's adjusted to keep weight on your "sit bones." Take frequent rests while biking.
• Fact: Pollution affects sperm. Experts think environmental toxins may have something to do with falling sperm counts. One culprit may be estrogen-like chemicals widely used in agriculture and industry. These substances are found in places ranging from drinking water to household products. Other environmental toxins that might affect male fertility are growth hormones present in meat.
• Fact: The flu slows sperm production. An illness that causes a fever can affect sperm production and sperm quality. But it won't affect fertility for two to three months, since it takes sperm 75 days to mature.
• Fact: The calendar also matters to men. Sperm counts are higher in the winter and lower in the summer. This may be because cooler temperatures are associated with increased sperm production. Sperm counts are also higher in the morning than at other times of day. However, experts aren't sure that time of day or time of year makes a notable difference in fertility.

Adopting healthy lifestyle practices to preserve your fertility — and avoiding things that can damage it — may improve your and your partner's chances of conceiving a child. But you still may not become a father on your first — or even 51st — try. If you and your partner haven't achieved a pregnancy after a year of unprotected intercourse, see your doctor and get a semen analysis. About 25 percent of couples have trouble conceiving at some point, and this number increases with age. Forty percent of infertility can be traced to the man alone, but often it's a combination of both the man and woman. A fertility specialist can identify the cause of the problem and provide treatments that may help place you and your partner on the road to parenthood. ( MayoClinic.com)

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Why are Men Losing Interest in Sex ?

The "Not tonight darling, I've got a headache" syndrome is usually associated with women when they're not in the mood, but lately the excuse is increasingly being used by men to put off sex, according to a survey.

The new poll by independent charity the Men's Health Forum has found that 15 per cent of men aged between 18 and 59 admitted to a "lack of interest in sex".

Relationship-counselling service Relate has revealed that there's a 40 percent increase in the number of men saying they had gone off sex, compared with 10 years ago.

All the above men with low libido don't face any physical problems; it's just that they do not want to have sex. Research has found that the growing trend of the drop in male desire is a direct result of women's changing role in society.

Men get overwhelmed with the modern woman, who is confident and comfortable with her own sexual needs and desires.

Apart from that men are bombarded with an overload of sexual images on the Internet, cable TV and in magazines, so much so, that it may be leading them to prefer the ever-ready fantasy to the reality.

Renowned Chicago-based relationships therapist Michele Weiner-Davis caused a furore in the US by claiming that at least 25 per cent of all men suffer from low desire.

It was, "America's best-kept secret," the Sun quoted her as saying. Michael Gilbert, author of The Disposable Male , said: "Western men feel marginalised.

"In a third of American homes where both partners work, women earn more than men. This tears at the fabric of male sexuality." And the problem is further worsened by the number of overworked men who are turning to alcohol to relax after work, and it has been revealed earlier that booze interferes with testosterone.

Phillip Hodson, a psychotherapist and author of Men: An Investigation Into The Emotional Male , said: "Sex is all about play. Libido comes out of a moment of idleness and down time. But British men work the longest hours in Europe. Sex and the clock don't go well together.

"Men drink because it's a short-cut to relaxation - but alcohol dampens the libido. ( indiatimes.com)

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